Forgiveness isn't about the other person. It really is all about yourself.
I learned a lot about it this year. In so many ways, I have hurt others. In many more ways, I have been hurt. Thankfully, I have been offered ultimate forgiveness from God. But even in the midst of my personal trials, I doubted the idea of my own family forgiving me. I am so thankful that they did.
But, after months and months of pain and heartache, I finally realized and grasped that indeed, forgiving someone else is all about you. Forgiveness isn't to make the offender feel better, it's about letting go for yourself. The ones who have hurt me, well, it didn't matter to some of them whether I forgave them or not. But the second I made the choice to do it, my life was completely different. A huge burden was lifted and my life changed in that instant. I became something different. More relaxed.
I am happy now. I was happy before, but forgiving my offenders changed me. It made me able to pray for them. It gave me a freedom to let go and move forward. It allowed me to be peaceful, even in the pain.
Wrongs don't disappear. Pain doesn't evaporate like mist. But forgiveness gives us a new perspective. In that moment, we make the choice to let go of the hurt, and embrace the opportunity to become a better person despite what trials we have endured.
Don't waste your life clinging to pain or hurt or past wrongdoings. Let go today. Forgive today. Be at peace and find the happiness you've deserved since the beginning.